How to Have the Best Sex: Advice for Zambian Men Part 8

The Role of the Soul
The crucial role of the soul is probably what
most of us may not even be familiar with in love
making. This includes erotic feelings and
thoughts involving all the senses such as smell,
what we see, taste, hear, and touch. It involves
the mysterious role of the mind and the spirit.
Good love making invokes some of the godliest
deepest feelings about our partner and the
mystery of the goodness and meaning of life.
Ideal love making may start in the morning as
the couple hug or kiss or bid each other goodbye
as they embark on the day. During the day, she
calls him and says in a secret cryptic message
that only both of them know: “ kaja kanthu
nakonza” (I have prepared that thing). They
both are so excited all day. They can’t wait to
see each other at home. As the children do
homework and dinner is being prepared; the
couple exchange tense smiles. They eat a hearty
meal. The anticipation is just killing them both.
When finally the children are asleep and the
bedroom door closes, all hell breaks loose.
They wildly kiss hastily and can’t tear off each
other’s clothes quickly enough. They breathe
heavily like desperate wounded animals. They
switch on the TV to mask loud sounds to come
that may wake up the children frightening
them. After vigorous love making and crossing
the bridge of no return, their bodies shake and
tremble from head to toe. The man experiences
pleasure not only in his robust Nthonga but an
orgasm too in the whole of his body. The couple
collapses in each other’s arms with lots of sweat
mingled with the engulfing scents of natural
aromas. There is a calm serenity over the couple
that momentarily takes care of the world’s
troubles in their lives. Some couples will have a
special snack both of them like to quietly share
afterwards.