How to Have the Best Sex: Advice for Zambian Men Part 5

Men Between 18 and 40 years old.
If you are a man in this age group, and have
any problems getting your Nthoga to rise to that
special love making occasion, you should consult
a medical doctor to see if there is anything
medically wrong. Some of the problems that
cause failure of your Nthonga to rise to the
occasion are watching or addiction to
pornography, anger and resentment of your
partner, prescription medications, serious
marriage problems and tensions, psychological
stress relating to work and family, lack of
physical exercise, smoking, excessive drinking of
alcohol, and a poor diet that is high in fat.
Eating nshima with relish which had little fat
may be one of the possible ways to help your
Nthonga to rise and also maintain less weight or
to fight obesity.
Even our wise ancestors knew that a diet
excessive in fat can block a man’s blood flow to
the veins such that his Nthonga fails to rise
during love making in marriage. Naboth Ngulube
(1989) in “Some Aspects of Growing Up in
Zambia” mentions many traditional taboos
including: “Fatty Mice – to boys, girls, and
pregnant women – Too much fat would close the
way in the Nthonga and render one impotent”.
(p. 54) ( Nthonga added)
The “New Mulemena Boys” have a song in which
a wife is complaining that her husband’s
Nthonga does not rise so that they could make
love. The wife consulted a traditional healer.
After investigation the problem was found to be
that the husband always came home late at
night drunk from the bar. Alcohol abuse was
causing the problem.